Hi David:
Unfortunately, Shelly is right. Unless a person WANTS to get help and stop drinking, there is absolutely nothing anyone can do or say to make him/her stop. My first husband and the father of my two children loved us as much as anyone could ever love anyone, but that wasn't even enough. He volunteered into a clinic once, but I later found out that some of the friends he had made while there, and were let out at the same time, celebrated on the way home by having "a few drinks." So, it started all over again. You are a good friend in trying to help your handyman, but, sorry to say, I'm afraid it's hopeless. Gee, this sure is a depressing message, and it brings back bad memories, but just thought I'd tell you my experience. It reminds me of trying to talk/get someone to quit smoking. When I smoked (before OC), any time someone harped on me to quit, it made me want a cigarette even more. It took the horrible ugly C-word to make me quit - immediately. And my daughter, too. Anyway, I guess one never knows, so good luck to you.
julieann