Gary,

I have dealt with my anger issues and put those demons behind me my friend. My brother and my biological father (another alchy)and I actually have a very good relationship today. I didn't do it with therapy though, I did it by learning to defend myself, empowering myself to deal with any physical threat that came my way.

I was a very good wrestler in high school and then in college and I really enjoyed grappling and self defense. I used this to help bring that self confidence to others as I helped train the WA State police in submission grappling in the 90's which led to teaching self defense classes to battered women, most of whom were beaten by their drunken husband/boyfriend. I used the negative experiences I had growing up to help others and that's what set me free.

Now, that doesn't mean that I'll ever have the patience to listen to the whining drivel of an addict...I hate excuses as to why they can't muster up the willpower to stop their destruction to themselves and others. I don't have time to listen to them carry on like they have a "disease" when I spend my time on these forums and in my life helping myself and others deal with a real disease.

I'll never be that guy that will be soft hearted to someone that's been bitten by their own choices. I'm the guy that will tell you straight out to stop being a f'n idiot and use the brain that God gave you...it works if you stop pumping it full of alcohol and other toxins.

I'm an @sshole, just not angry about it