"The bullsh!t answer that they "can't" quit pisses me off. Can't means won't, people need to square their shoulders, straighten their spines, grow a pair and knock it the f#ck off already. Whining about that crap makes me sick..."Oh I want to stop, but I "can't"!...it's a disease!" Cancer is a disease dumbass, stupidity is a choice."


Eric, you are the man!!! Excellent words that sum up the situation. My ex-husband's family is full of alcohol and drug addiction. It is very painful to watch someone you love and care about self-destruct and be helpless to do anything about it.

David, have you ever watched the tv program "Intervention" on A&E. You can't love someone out of addiction. I know it is hard but you are enabling him. You need healthy boundaries in your dealings with him and with your relationship with him. Addicts are great manipulators and tell you what YOU want to hear. You can't save him - he has to save himself. Good luck - there are no easy answers.