Sue,

I'm glad to hear that you are getting counseling...talking through it helps...of course I say that but would never do it myself because I'm stubborn like that.

Every case is going to be different but I guess I view it like this. The ones you love the most, will hurt you the worst...but if you can't forgive the ones you love the most, can you really forgive anyone? Nobody is perfect and everyone will fall short eventually...knowing that helps put things in perspective. If/when you fall short, do you expect forgiveness? Of course you do.

Forgiving them helps you more then them. There's no sense in holding that hurt and anger inside. Of course it's easier said then done...I know. The hardest part of that situation was to let go of that hurt...but once I knew I could truly forgive my wife...and her me...that's when I realized how much I loved her.

I would say spare yourself the details though...the only answer I needed from my wife was if it was love.

8 years later, after a 2 year battle with cancer, we are making a dream of ours come true. My wife and I are an incredible team and are truly kicking butt in business. We took an abandoned pizza place and have turned it into a wildly successful business and are having the time of our lives...working insane hours but truly having fun with it.

The situation we used to strengthen our relationship...to a point where I know I can tell my wife "anything" and her me and we know there will be understanding and forgiveness...that was liberating to us.

Hope that helps,

Eric