Karen- I can only offer advice on how to help yourself. My husband was a wonderful patient and although he was stubborn also I didn't have the problem of depression to deal with. as Wendy said-sometimes you have to realize that the ball is in his court and he is an adult. That being said- you MUST take time to recharge yourself. If he is being difficult-take a walk by yourself. I did this alot. I could get my husband to go once in awhile but I would most often go alone. Try to spend time with friends outside of the house. I had my teenagers home to sit with Neil so I could leave if only for a few hours. Very often I would have my friends or family over so I could have social interaction but still be home. I also discovered pedicures. I'm not a high maintenence person but sometimes it can work wonders for your mood especially if the one you love is less than nice to you. Hang in there-you are trying your best in the worst of situations and that is so very hard!