Hi Karen. I'm so sorry that your hubby is being so difficult. Everyone reacts different to treatment and a cancer diagnosis. Thank God my husband never took his fear, anger, pain or depression out on me. We have always had a very strong bond and I think dealing with major life issues such as a cancer diagnosis can either strengthen your relationship or fracture it. I have told many people that although this year has been one of the most difficult years of our life, it has also been filled with some of the most love-filled moments between John and I.

When John was a month out of treatment he literally couldn't talk or he would gag and throw up. He was on Zofran and Compazine for the nausea for over a month after treatment stopped. Is your husband on anti-nausea meds? This might be something to look into if he isn't. John would use a writing tablet and we "communicated" that way. His throat and mouth were much to sore to talk or eat anything. I don't have any experience with shrinks so I can offer any advice there. I personally think that most if not all cancer patients are somewhat depressed - who wouldn't be battling cancer. Sending you a hug and hoping your days get brighter.

Remember that you are his wife and not his mommy. He needs to take some responsibility for his own care.