Hi Wendy, I am sorry you are a cancer patient. But I am happy for you that you are a member here, what a bright woman you are ! Honey, have faith, in yourself and your medical team. I had such confidence from the start, knowing that there are treatment options available. How often I said "what if I had tongue cancer 10, 15 years ago?" My ENT wanted to do surgery, he was very unhappy w/me when I went back f/my 2nd appointment. I told him I was going with the advice my radiologist gave me. She said she could cure me with radiation & a little Chemo, & she did ! So far so good ! It is one of the worst cancers we have/had. Our speech, eating, swallowing, weight are all affected. The after treatment symptoms may never go away, but it's all do-able !!! Persevere, no matter what comes your way, you can do it ! You have a huge cheerleading squad right here to encourage you along your journey. So many people, so much knowledge, so much compassion & understanding. We have all been in your shoes. How I wish I knew about this site, when during the 5th week of radiation, I so wanted to give up. I needed to talk to someone that knew what I was going through, there was no one. I now know the meaning of "misery loves company". So my dear, you are in my thoughts. With all my heart I wish you all the best. Stay current w/us ! Dianne MH