Second opinion at a CCC. My first ENT wanted to cut. I got my second opinion at a CCC and like DavidCPA had NO surgery. I, like you, was ready to "get it out of there." I actually had the surgery scheduled, but because of the advice of someone who had oral cancer 14 years ago, i got a second opinon.

That second opinion yielded a plan from a team of doctors that was radiation/chemo first and then surgery if necessary. CT and PET scans were clear and i did not get surgery.

Most of us aren't doctors, but I don't think anyone on this board would suggest anything but a second opinion.

As far as your family being in a hurry, let them read some of the postings on this board. For me, it was more than 45 days from the time i found the lump on my neck to the day i got my first chemo treatment.