We have a combined bunch....7 kids between us ranging in age from 36 to 26. My two boys have helped out, my daughter operates in her own little world (we're raising her kids who are 8 and almost 5), 2 of his kids have visited but most of the time act like it's all gonna be ok and the other 2 are apparently in avoidance mode as we don't see or hear from them because they're "busy". As for me, I'd like to yank them up and shake them...the 2 who have helped most seem to "get it" while the rest look surprised when they see their dad who has now dropped approximately 50 lb. Believe me, you are not alone!!!