Oh Cecilia, I am so sorry for the hurt you both are going thru with that awful child. The teenage years can be so terrible, its not possible to understand whats wrong with kids they turn into people we cant even recognize! You could talk and they would be mad, or stay silent and they will be just as angry with you. Nothing pleases them, they are so selfish that they wont even iniate a conversation. Think about how often when spending time together the child will bring up a subject to discuss. I bet never. That age and early 20s all seem to feel entitled to be given everything without having to do anything for it. The whats in it for me attitude seems to be how alot of these young people think. This is an age thing.

Ive had my share of rough times with my children. I gave them enough space where I waited it out til they eventually came to me. During the waiting period, I only spoke to them if they started the conversation. Then I was as short as possible. It was a painful process for me to basically ignore my children, but it worked. When my son came to me he apologized and admitted how wrong he had been. It only took him a couple of weeks. Now, my son is the best son a mother could ask for.

My daughter took longer when she hit that entitlement phase. It was almost a year of heck I went thru. She now appreciates me where before she was just like what you explained. One time she was asking me for something and I said to her, why should I give you anything, as an adult Im not responsible for you anymore so whats in it for ME? That was the turning point, she finally understood.

Please remember you are not alone with something like this. So many of us have had problems similar to yours. Im so sorry you feel like you or Martin did something wrong. It is not you, its the child and she is just being a typical kid. It may take a while but it will work out. Going to the doctor might help, someone who is neutral could be what she needs to understand your side of this. Patience and time will fix this.