OMG David, I completely get what you say. I understand that these are Rod's kids, and that he loves them, [I think he's a little disappointed in them though] and I won't try to stop communications between them, but I'm now at a point that they have treated me so badly that I won't allow either of them on our property now the youngest has collected her things. I totaly understand your thoughts, and your wifes' - I feel I'm in her shoes in more ways than one though, due to the threats they have imposed on me. I have spoken to the police due to this, and won't disregard intervention orders to stop them from making contact with ME - got a text last night when I was asleep [got it when I woke], from the youngest, asking If I 'brushed my teeth much'. She blames me for him not going to her 21st in June - I was unaware she was having a party, and he had only had chemo the day before. I asked her not long ago to contact her dad more as he needs her [regardless of how she felt about me], she responded with 'it takes 2, and I can count the times he has called me this year on both hands'.....well, now she has removed her things off the property, neither of them will hear from me again, not even in response to text....sorry but so glad they're not my kids, how embarrasing & disappointing. Now I know I'm not alone in this, I don't feel so bad...or alone.

Amy, it's more that they hate me than can't 'cope' with their dads illness. They think they are punishing him for being with me. The eldest has 3 kids of her own [his grandchildren], she told him that it is 'his loss', the youngest advised me her mothers sister was going through Tx for a brain tumour but still managed to go to her son's 21st.....ignorance there I think, but still not an excuse as they could have done their homework via the CCC or Cancer Council...plenty of info.

Oh, and Rod has also asked me if I know more about him or the doctors have told me stuff behind his back...thats a no of course, but I understand his line of questioning.

This Kid issue has done my head in, but I think I'm on the recovery road myself now.

J