I will chime in on this subject. Christine has been a great ear to help me through how my children are. It feels to me like my kids are removing themselves from me. My psychologist said this could be a self preservation tactic - "if I don't care that much then it wont hurt so much when she dies", but of course it distances us when I feel I need closeness more than anything. I haven't quite figured out what to do about it. You cannot MAKE people be what you want them to be.

I believe they care, but somehow in my parenting I seem to have missed teaching them about how to SHOW they care.

Donna

Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)