EzJim, I think you have him down to a T. I asked him tonight if he was scared to which he shook his head NO. I asked if he was feeling down to which he shook his head NO. I asked if he has just accepted this to which he shook his head YES. Sometimes I wish he would get angry, just to see some reaction but I suppose acceptance is really the best. Although I suspect he doesn't open up to me so as not to cause me more pain. He spoke to me today, only a few words. It was the best sound I'd heard in a long time. Made me realise how much I've missed his voice.


Wife to Steve 43. DX 5 May 09. T4N2MO SCC tongue, floor of mouth, lymph nodes & jaw bone
No surgery
radiation 13/07/2009 x 7wks
chemo 15/07/2009 x 3 Cisplatin
last TX 28/08/2009
25/11/2009 PET-lymph node activity.
08/01/2010 CT Scan-ALL CLEAR
03/03/2010-Peg removed
01/2013 left side of Jaw removed and replaced with pectoral flap.
23/12/2020 scan show lesion in tongue
01/2021 SCC stage 3 base of tongue diagnosed
01/03/2021 chemotherapy started.
17/03/22 lost the battle. Missed dearly