I just re-read the original post and realize I didn't address slim/Wanda's concerns at all. Speaking for my wife, who has been here for me throughout this entire ordeal, it is very important that you now start making time for yourself. The worst is truly over and it's not as important that you are at John's every beck and call. If he is anything like me, you are definitely going to have to reassure him that he is getting better since there will be many days when it will be hard to tell. But you should also be able to schedule in time for your work, or to have lunch or dinner with friends, or whatever it is that will help you feel like life is coming back to normal. I know my wife has felt guilty at times for taking her own time, but it's definitely improved her outlook whenever she has.

Best of luck!!!
david