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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 476 | Tamara, my heart aches for you. I am so, so sorry you are going through this. My mom died at home from Pancreatic Cancer and was on hospice care for the last 2 weeks. She didn't eat anything for 21 days before she died and didn't drink anything for almost a week. The human will to survive is very, very strong. I used to sit with her, hold her hand, stroke her hair and tell her "it's o.k. to go, we will be o.k. and take care of dad". I read "somewhere" that telling your loved one it's o.k. to go helps them to pass on. I know once things get to this point you just want all the suffering for everyone involved to be over. If you just need to chat with someone, feel free to PM me. I am so, so sorry. Hugs, Wanda
Wanda (47) caregiver to husband John (56) age at diag.(2009)
1-13-09 diagnosed Stage IV BOT SCC (HPV+)
2-12-09 PEG placed, 7-6-09 removed
Cisplatin 7 weeks, 7 weeks (35) IMRT
4-15-09 - treatment completed
8-09,12-09-CT Scans clear, 4-10,6-11-PET Scans clear
4-2013 - HBO (30 dives) tooth extraction
10-2019 - tooth extraction, HBO (10 dives)
11-2019 - Left lateral tongue SCC - Stage 2
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