Becky,

I have to say I hate dentists to begin with and just the thought of having one if not more teeth pulled would scare me too! Just know whatever is decided it will be for the best and is one step closer to having a long, healthy life in the future. Every tooth lost will be one less problem to deal with later down the road.
It took only two days for you to tell your Mom? That's good actually. We Didn't tell hubby's Mom till after he started tx. And we didn't tell her about his surgery till after he healed and was feeling good enough to talk to her. Not saying it was the right thing to do. But it's hard to talk about and so hard when you know your adding some real worry to the minds of people that love you. Now I know we should have told her sooner. She has been such a great resource (retired oncology nurse) and so helpful with the little things that we can do that we never would have thought of otherwise. We were afraid to tell her since she knows prabably better then anyone else what his dx meant. She just lost her husband last year to a long illness and we just didn't know how to break this to her. Our concern for how she'd take it was unwarrented. Even though she's older and we think of her as fraile she has rallied and been a real comfort to us.
Try to stay distracted as much as possible right now. And above all. Take to doing and eating everything that makes you happy right now! That way when you're at that point that your drinking the same old boring starwberry shake (or equivilent) you can imagine that awesome steak dinner you enjoyed just a few weeks ago. And when having one of those days that your feeling completly worn out and rundown you can think about that bazaar you went to or movie you saw or that wonderful day in the park you had just weeks ago. And remember no matter how long it feels, it is just a few weeks out of your life!!! and it will be over and you'll be feeling better and better each new day until it is all just a bad memory.
~hugs~ Ija