Thanks guys - I don't know how people get through this without a place like this one!! I am trying to understand thta it hurts to talk, but my frustration with it is he can talk when it's for work, but not when it's to me and the kids. We do have the lidocaine and it does not provide much relief for him.

Amy - we pretty much had this conversation tonight. It went really well and we are operating as a team again. I also told him it wasn't fair to give everything at work and have nothing left for when he gets home. I couldn't help it - I cried while we were talking and he responded really well. Much better than he did last night when I was mad. I think we are past this latest bump in the road with the anger and now we'll move on until the next one hits. LOL - I hope the Paxil helps him level out a little bit.