Michelle-I'm so sorry. My husband was pretty non-communicative also. Lately I've gotten him to talk about stuff even though he doesn't research this like I have. I think sometimes they want to believe that this will al go away. With Neil's latest bad news, he has started to read posts on this site. His initial diagnosis was about 9 months ago and he has just now realized that other people may have insight to what he's going through. I think maybe we all have to arrive at the same place but it takes some of us longer. His pain must be terrible and I pray for some relief for both of you.
Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.