Mariam, usually I try to post my thoughts carefully so as not to offend or upset- but the issue with your Dad's peg tube isn't right. If it's infected, then someone needs to fix that[not you]. They do leak, but normally, you do not need to poke gauze into the incision. As to the coffee, buy him a cup, let him enjoy the aroma, cool it down to room temp. and pour it in the peg. He gets the benefit of the liquids, coffee often helps the bowels move and he might get a "boost" from drinking it. You are having a really rough time. Caregiving in this situation is hour to hour-day to day and takes most of your strength. Remember, this can be as hard on you as it is on him [ I am saying this from a caregiver perspective]. It is important for you to vent AND it is important for you to try to find a little time to get some balance in your life if you can
[if only taking a bubble bath]. What are the Docs telling y'all now as to what his prognosis is? Is he totally finished with tx? I got a little lost in reading your tx dates. Amy in the Ozarks