Jean--on the 'info' issue.
Try and remain calm and keep asking!
And if there's no way you can comfortably ask his docs or nurses, come back on here regularly and keep asking! People will help you, advise you, sympathise with you and comfort you, believe me.
You are in the best place

Brenda

Brenda in UK--Diagnosis 30/5/07--undifferentiated carcinoma in right jawbone and muscles. Stage 4
6/7/07--new diagnosis primary is in lung. Finished 4cycles of palliative carboplatin/gemcitabine
therapy September 07
Now dying to live!