Cindy,
You didn't offend anyone. Interpreting statements such as you posted could easily lead to a God/No God debate and Brian tries very, very hard to keep religion to a minimum. We have lost posters because they were offended by the overly zealous religious tone of some posters or by another posters need to state there is no God. The board isn't meant for that type of activity.
Concerning your husband, him withdrawing isn't that unusual when dealing with cancer treatment. Now may not be the best time to try and talk to him about old lives and new lives. I'm sure his mind is controled by one thought right now, and that is getting through treatment. When he feels better, and he will, is when he will begin the process of grieving his old life and accepting his new. I think Harry is VERY MUCH like alot of people on this board. I know Gary will admit he was a bear during treatment and Brian himself felt like he was not going to make it. Only Harry can decide how he is going to handle getting through treatment. He has lost all control of his life and feels horrible. He is getting to the end and sooner then you think both of you will be in a better place. I wish there was more I could do for you but my best advice is to remember that what you are going through has been done by thousands before you and your feelings are shared by many.
I hope you understand better now why I felt we needed to close this thread.
Minnie