Candace, it is interesting that you mention the control thing. Harry and I actually had a fight about that today. He is angry and frustrated and I understand why but the way he is dealing with it is not good.

I tried to talk to him today about understanding that we have to find a way to live our new life and put the old life to bed. He just got even more angry.

I know the feelings. All to often I want my life back and I am not doing such a hot job at coping with the loss.
The hospital gave me an article that was written by a woman who has breast cancer and has had 3 recurrences. It was a very positive story and enlightening. She says that the world has always been chaos and we just trick ourselves into believing that we have control over it. I think that she has a point. A point I may never have conceded had we not been forced into the "C" life.

Thanks,
Cindy

PS... I am a Taoist which is why I am always submerged in my philosophy.