I have now run into a problem that 1. I didn't expect (surprise) and 2. that I sisn't know would be so hard to deal with.

Maybe you verterans out there can help me with this.

My husband just started his tx monday january 31st. The chemo (cisplatin especially) hit him hard and fast and he was weak and very sick within hours. Everyday I went to the hospital and I did all I could. Then I brought him home and took care of him here. Now he is feeling a little better even though the mucosis has gotten much worse and the throat is starting to hurt. Talking is a challenge now but he can get up and move around.

Now he is driving himself to radiation tx. It is 50 miles round trip. He is making me crazy because I understand that he wants to do these things himself but I am afraid that if something happens to him while he is driving then he will get hurt or even die.

At home, he seems to need me less and less. I know he is hurting but he just wants to do it himself. Being a terribly independent person myself, I can cpompletely understand.

But.... what is happening is that I am now feeling left out, and not needed. I know that this seems like an irrational feeling but I have it just the same.

Any advice on how to cope with these moments would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,
Cindy