Dear Cindy and other caregivers, this forum is so important!! My John came home from sugery determined to do what he wanted to do[with no understanding of his cancer- his attitude , since diagnosis, has been "do what you have to do and get it over with, I don't want to know about it" I, on the other hand, wanted to know everything I could find about it. And Hooray, I found this website. However, since I understood and took to heart the post surgery instructions, John and I have collided more times than I would like on how he is taking care of himself.I feel like a bouncing ball between witch of the west and loving wife. I guess we caregivers really need a place to vent. Amy