Cindy, as a patient and not a caregiver, I can offer you a look at the situation from this side of the equation. I'm also a male, so I can relate to where Harry's coming from. I drove 60 miles one way for my treatments and worked throughout that time. As an outside salesman, I was driving all the time, meeting with customers, etc., and did not take any pain meds until I got home at 5:00 or so. My focus was on getting through the day. That was all I was interested in. By the time I got home, I was not a happy camper. And was hard to live with. And grouchy. I'm sure Harry is not excluding you, just trying to cope with what is happening to him. At least this way, he feels he has control over something in his life. And the more things he can control, the better because he has no control over what the doctors do or what the disease is doing to him. Therefore, it is important to control something. My advice is to try to ignore your feelings of not being included. It is not directed at you, but at the situation Harry is in. Once this is over, he will return to a more normal attitude and not feel so out of control. Hang in there, it is much better in a few weeks. And it gets better and better thereafter.