Hey Cindy,
I sure understand what you are going thru. Dan was very ill from the chemo/rad and after about 4 weeks he could have never driven himself. Also, he lost his voice completely for 6 weeks and that was a terribly lonely time for me. Dan didn't make much effort to use an erase board then as it took all his effort to get up, get a shower, be driven to treatment and then home. He spent most of the rest of the time in a recliner sleeping on and off. The meds really knocked him out alot which was good because the pain was severe. I spent many months doing for him and being afraid of anything he tried to do in the recovering months, and he and my boys finally had to tell me to back off some. It's hard doing everything for them and then not. I took many walks with the dog to cry and pray and ask God to help me be what I needed to be in this situation. I also relied heavily on our bible study friends for support.
God bless and take care,
Debbie