Hi Cindy
Well I'm a care giver to my blind husband, with advanced prostate cancer (in remmission for now) my Mom is 80 and losing her sight also and my Dad 87 has dementia. So no where in this was there room for me to be ill, I took the view that if I DID NOT DO THIS FOR ME, NOW...The whole thing would fall apart, so I be came very self centered.
Give him some space, the day will come when he will need some help with the driving, tell him you will drop him at the hospital, you need the car to do some shopping, tell him the time you wil return and how ever hard it will be stay away till then. The chances are he will have to admit defeat before you need to try these ploys..
Remember this is DOABLE just! ! !
Hang in there
Sunshine... love and hugs
Helen