sbk: Hang in there kiddo. This is difficult treatment he is going through and we all give our saintly caregivers a bad time. Because the treatments get to be too much sometimes. However, my wife, who takes such good care of me, has had to straighten me out a couple of times to get my attitude in place. A quiet discussion on the patio with her talking and me listening usually did it. Of couse, I am used to obeying after 25 years, but her points of the effects I was having on the kids and the house in general rang very true once she pointed them out to me. By all means, though, have your hubby look at this site. It can give him some ideas on how to cope as well as whats coming. Perhaps he can deal with it better if he knows whats ahead. Be careful with that, though, because I didn't want to know anything until my treatments (rad/chemo) were over. Surgery didn't matter because I already knew what to expect after that having had them before. So hang in there and help him to understand the frustration which causes the anger.