Hello caretakers and patients...

I wonder how I can be more helpful as a caretaker...John, (known to folks on this site as my 40 yo adorable husband, nonsmker, T2N2, s/p surgery, with trach and G-Tube, s/p taxol x 3, radiation now on 7 of 32 with cisplat and taxol in the last few weeks) is understandably!!!... totally pissed at times...especially with being tired...I know that he is most comfortable with me...he doesn't show or share his anger with anyone else...I listen and listen and hold him (when he's not too achey)...try to keep our 3 year old busy and as quiet as possible...but, not sure if there is anything else I can do...

any advice would be great...thank you all,

Sara