Sharlee - There comes a time when you have to think about YOU and give yourself some compassion. You have SO much on your plate and if you don't take care of You, you won't be any good to anyone else. Youngin is right - and if I had a left lug nut I would bet it too, that you are a great friend! You cannot make someone feel a certain way, especially when they don't have enough compassion to try to even understand. So just concentrate on You - and getting thru things a step at a time.