My mom is adamant that she will not have any type of feeding tube installed (including a PEG). Her continued wish is to hang on to (now limited) independence as long as she possibly can. Once her pain reaches an unbearable level, she plans on a rapid morphine induced coma followed by a quiet peaceful death.
From everyone I have spoken to (on and off this wonderful site) plus my own personal experiences (dad, a close friend and my mother in law) you should know the following:
The pain control meds of today provide a slow peaceful transition as the body starts to shutdown. I am sure that your biggest concern is that your mother will not suffer. You need to accept this truth (making sure of course that she gets the proper meds)
