Tina,
I have not been on here in quite awhile but after reading your postings it brought back so many of the same emotions I felt when my mom was going through this. She had her lymph node removed, tumor under her tongue & a portion on her tongue removed. It was pure hell seeing her that way. My mom was my rock, she kept me going. I, unfortunatley lost her 1 year & 2 days after her surgery because this evil disease came back faster than ever & just attacked all of her. I cherish EVERY moment spent with my mom after her surgery. She was able to talk again after awhile & it was magical to hear her voice again. She was strong & brave (more than I think I could be). Even when she was in pain, she just shrugged it off & did not complain. I pray that your mom is doing OK, you will get through this & I hope that she will do just fine. Please though, remember your other loved ones, sounds like you have kids, I let all of my life go when my Mom became ill again, my family, my bills, my job, my health. I learned the hard way though that life goes on whether or not you feel like going on with it. Luckily, I have a huge hearted little girl who loves me enough to know when I cry to come hug me, I have a husband who could have left in this situation, but he has stuck by me & my MANY moods during this whole process of acceptance. My bills on the other hand, boy they just don't give up, but hey, I can handle them. My employer is so understanding & I am going to the doc to take care of all my issues. If you ever need to talk, I am here ([email protected]). You will be in my thoughts. Veronica