Hi Tinaelise,
It's tough waiting for the surgery. I waited 2 weeks for mine and it's not uncommon to wait that long.
I am also the mother of 7 and the way you talk about your mom makes me think of my third daughter, Megan, who is 20. Her fear of losing me was so evident and it is just in the past few months that I have seen her fear subside and she is moving on with her life now. She spent every waking moment at my house after my surgery and for months and months afterwards. She was so sure she was going to lose me. It must be a horrible feeling to think about losing your mom, I feel sad that you have to feel that way. My mother is 61 (I'm 43) and I could not imagine my life without her in it.
I can try to help you with how your mom might be feeling right now. I know that all my concern and thoughts were for my daughters and my husband, I worried that me being sick would change their lives, fill it with worry. Of course I felt a fear that I had never felt before but it always came back to my kids and husband. On the other hand, I didn't want them to see that I was upset or scared so it was a confusing time. I am so used to being a caretaker, it was next to impossible to let others take care of me. And I am not a casual caretaker, my lifes mission has been to raise my children, they are the center of my world. The way you talk of your mom I have a feeling she is that same kind of caretaker. I bet most of her worry and fear is centered around her kids.
Your mom is older then I am so her age will make it more difficult for her, but I bet she is a very strong woman. I had the lower half of my jaw removed and I had very little pain after the surgery. The pain I did have was very well controlled with medication. I will pray that your mom doesn't suffer from this surgery. Keep us posted and stay strong.
Minnie