Hi Tina,

You most certainly are not selfish. I think that your Mom is very fortunate to have someone like you to Love her and want to find out all you can for her.

I also thought that I would be in a world of pain after my surgery. HONESTLY, I had almost no pain at all from the neck dissection. I didn't have tongue surgery, mine was a tonsillectomy, and while that part bothered me quite a bit, it was kept quite tolerable with percocet and a numbing spray.

You are all going through a LOT right now, emotions, anxiety and the rest. Your mother will still be your mother and your children's grandmother. Love her, comfort her and give her all the support that you can. To borrow a long used cliche....."Hope springs eternal....

God bless you all and think POSITIVE!!!
and keep coming back with your questions

Jack..........
Dx 1/15/97 SCC rt. tonsil met to rt lymph node Stg IV, Srgry 1/23/97 tonsillectomy & mod radical neck dissection, Radiation 35 trtmnts both sides