Tina, it is ok to whine here.

Take a deep breath, You will be ok. I know that this seem so unfair! At this point, you and your family have to trust in her caregivers. Your mom is in for a bit of a challenge but she can do it and she has a resonable chance to survive. No one on this earth knows what the outcome will be. Stop trying to predict what will happen or worry about it. (I know that is hard)

What you can do is continue your support for her, learn more about what she is going to be facing and pay attention to what her doctors say. She will likely find comfort knowing that you are looking out for her. Take a note pad with when you see her, ask questions of her caregivers.

Ask here any questions you need answered.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.