Bless your heart, we have all been right where you are at. I wish it was that easy to just yell it away, cry it away, scream it away, doesn't work we have all tried...All those you are doing so great handling this, makes you want to scream---again---what else can they say,, they have no idea what to do, what to say, how to act, neither would we if the table was turned...You are loved, we all care,,lean on us for as long as u need too, we are here,,,as long as we can be..always, vicki lynn