Hi Gretchen, I think what both Diane and Donna said was good advice. The doctor definitely should be made aware of her addiction - so this can be monitored properly. All I can really say is that I'm a caregiver like you....and it's safe to say that you are not alone in your frustrations over this disease, and what it does physically and emotionally to all involved. As Donna mentioned, cancer is "tough stuff"...but as a caregiver, you're going to have to be one tougher. It's not easy, but you have come to a great place where you will find caring people who will do their best to answer your questions. It's also a great outlet to vent...so feel free to let loose if need be! Good luck to both of you and keep us posted on how things are going.