I am new to this however i am a caregiver and we have been in radiation for 3 weeks and the pain my mate is having is so bad. i am a recovering addict for almost 15 years and she has been recovering for almost 4. i am the keeper of the pain meds so i am the bad guy in our house. she was a downer user in her addiction and i am afraid she will start using again before her 4 th anniversary on 5/31. i am so tired of this. she had surgery on 3/4/03 for cancer in the upper left soft palet. how long does the anger at your help last. how long will she be in pain from the burns on her tounge? i need some support and help i am ready to leave because it is so hurtful for me. help please.