To Packer's "caretaker" - What Brian said about "no human can go through this life without trial" sums it up perfectly. These people who made that cruel remark obviously have not gone through any serious adversity - and yes, there are a lot of small-minded people in this world who just don't understand or care to show compassion - unless it happens to them or someone they are close to. There is no excuse for any adult in this world to act like that. Ignore their selfishness and realize that your husband is doing so much good for a lot of people by his example of courage and strength in the face of this horrible disease. Your husband may be disfigured physically - but anyone with eyes to see beyond physical appearance, can see that he is truly an inspiration for all who are suffering from oral cancer, and that makes him a beautiful person inside - where it counts! God bless you both and take care always.