Seremom, My husband is 54yrs old and was dx with stg III/IV SCC at the base of his tongue in June 2005. It really helps to see that we're not in this alone. He had 1 round of chemo that had him hospitalized for a week. After deciding to stop any more chemo, he completed his 35 RAD txs Oct 7,05. Even with his PEG, he has lost over 80 lbs. We are both midlevel healthcare providers... This entire experience has been a shock to us both!! We have 5 children, all over 20 except for our youngest son who is 13. It's been hard on them as well. I try to keep things as normal as possible and still do the things with our that we both used to do together. Alan just started on an SSRI and I'm hoping that it will help with his depression. I'm also taking the same SSRI,trying to eat right' and exercise to take care of "me". I know that I can't be of any help to him if I'm not ok. Feel free to email me whenever you want to "talk". I know exactly how it is to be the sole wage earner, single parent, and head cheerleader!! God bless you and your family debnoon@bellsouth.net [img]http://[/img]