It seems like everyone is different and the "be your own quarterback" advice is the best. I have definitely been an agressive caregiver for Ken - staying on top of everything. We do not live in a large metro area and the Oncologists here in NW Arkansas are swamped. While Ken's medical oncologist is super, it is obvious his plate is more than full. We have a terrific relationship with our family doctor (a GP) and we felt very comfortable talking with her about the overall situation. It also helped to have someone to ask "what should I ask the other doctors"? I wish I had found this website much sooner after Ken's diagnosis.