Hi Carol. It sounds like you both are just about where my husband and I were at that time. My husband's gunky throat was at its worst for about 3 weeks after treatment ended, and then it started to improve. I also struggled with gentle prodding versus not wanting to push him too much. It was so hard to see him suffering so horribly and there was not much I could do to make it better. Just know that you are likely at the worst of it now, and he will get better!!! My husband was completely unable to take anything by mouth for a few weeks. The swelling should start going down soon. He will have to push himself at some point though to start swallowing. I'd continue with some intermittent, gentle suggestions. Again, know that this will get better. Your just being there is a tremendous support to him. Please keep in touch with us and let us know how it is going. Feel free to email me directly as well. Good luck, and you are doing great!!

Randi