To Dee, Margie and Shawna Margo: My message to you may or may not be received as comfort.But since I am 65 yrs. old, and well schooled in the reality of losing the older generation family members that we love and revere so much, I want to remind you that death is a consequence of life.
That doesn't mean that we accept it graciously or without a fight. It means that it is the conclusion to our being here to begin with. None of us who have a meaningful relationship with our beloved family members want to let them go gracefully, but sometimes we must. It may just condense down to care and comfort and love at the end. Fighting a battle that will never be won can make the enevitable worse sometimes. There is alot to be said for "leaving this life with dignity. I fought like hell to keep my mother[age84] alive when she was ready to go. I made the last few weeks harder on her. I don't know your ages, but I do know that my children's generation seems to think that dying is not a nautral part of living. That is not the deal.None of us will live forever. For those of us who are "Senior Citizens", our best hope is that we go gracefully into this goodnight and not cause undue suffering to our loved ones. Remember this as you are caring for and comforting your parents. I send you Love and Support and empathy. Amy