Dee, two of the most valuable pieces of information I have learned from this site are 1. to Always Ask or Demand, as the case may be, explainations for things you do not understand.and 2. Insist that pain be recognized and controlled. You are your Mother's primary advocate right now. Be as strong as you can be for her. I hope you can find ways to also take care of yourself during this. That is really important too. Amy