Thanks Christine. Yes, it is frustrating, it feels like looking after a toddler sometimes � but on the other hand I don't want to discredit anything as I have absolutely no idea what goes on inside the body and mind and above all what it feels like.

Learning from you OFC members I have started the process 'to back off', that means he has to take charge in taking care for himself.
Having said that, I have just been diagnosed with a couple of health issues myself and need to take care of myself for a change. It's easy to dismiss oneself when being solely focused on one person.



Heike

Working caregiver of my husband (51) Simon

03/2014 oropharyngeal cancer, stage IVB, T2N3M0, HPV 16 +
04/2014 Neck dissection - 39 lymph nodes removed, one node positive greater than 6cm, tumour in tonsil reaching into soft palette
28/04/14 begin of treatment
33 x RADS 66 Gy, 33 x chemo cisplatin 13mg each
29/04/14. pick two lines
12/06/14 finished treatment
09/ 14 Pet scan clear