Heike - I wonder if it's time for the 'Nurse from Hell" to make an appearance? I am not the "yeller" type but at one point in my son's Tx, I had finally had it with his resistance to everything and I did yell words to the effect that I was doing all I possibly could to help him survive and the very least he could do is help me out a little - that I just couldn't do it all by myself! Or maybe you could "arrange" for one of his doctors to have a very stern talk with him about putting on his big boy pants and start taking care of his responsibilities. What he appears to be doing now is slow suicide, so maybe a talk about funeral arrangements might also help. I am so sorry you are having such a difficult time but please do try to arrange some time for yourself. I hope things get better very soon.