Thank you Tammy and Uptown.

Yes, very true to focus only on things that one can do and can change. It's frustrating though to see someone not taking care of themselves.

Never thought how much impact cancer diagnosis and treatment has on caregivers and family. Well one day at a time. First week in 3 months without any appointments. Yeah. Better make the most of it.

Thanks again. I wouldn't have been able to care for Simon in the way I do hadn't it been for the members on this board.

Heike

Working caregiver of my husband (51) Simon

03/2014 oropharyngeal cancer, stage IVB, T2N3M0, HPV 16 +
04/2014 Neck dissection - 39 lymph nodes removed, one node positive greater than 6cm, tumour in tonsil reaching into soft palette
28/04/14 begin of treatment
33 x RADS 66 Gy, 33 x chemo cisplatin 13mg each
29/04/14. pick two lines
12/06/14 finished treatment
09/ 14 Pet scan clear