Caroline,
Everyone here would dispute the death sentence.
If it makes you feel any better, the pictures don't look bad at all.
Mine looked like the first picture except about 8x the size (the ridges ran from the tip of my tongue all along the left side, to the back where my throat is). I had the surgery, and found out today that I will not be required to do raditation.
I have been back at work since since 3 weeks after the surgery, talking and eating solid food.
If it is bad news, you will deal with it, and we will help.
Good luck tomorrow!