I hope that the forum caregivers who have walked in your shoes can offer you more tangible assistance Wendy.

I am so very sorry for what you are going through. You are exactly right - neither you nor Jim did anything to deserve this and I wouldn't blame you if you felt mad as hell at everyone and everything right now. No one knows why flipping awful things happen to good people, and this whole situation is awful. My thoughts are with you. I hope you both manage to find some peace.

Do not worry about scaring posters - we as a community know this disease (and all life threatening diseases) have the potential to take lives. Hugs

Donna

Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)