This is really the only place I can come where people understand. Anita, I totally identify with your husband about not liking to eat in front of people. As you said, those not familiar with OC do think that I should be "over it by now". Christine, you have been through so much more than I have and you and those who have had recurrences are my heroes. Thanks for letting me vent. You guys are the best!

Female, nonsmoker, 70, diag. 5/09 after tongue biopsy: stage IV. Left hemi-gloss. and left selec. neck disec. 30 lymph nodes removed May 20. Over 7 weeks daily rads. with three chemo. PEG removed 12/4/09 Am eating mostly soft foods. Back to work 11/09 Retired 4/1/11. 7 clear scans! Port out 9/11. 2/13. It's back: base of tongue, very invasive
surgery involving lifestyle changes. 2/14: Now speaking w/Passey-Muir valve. Considering a swallow study. Grateful to be alive.